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I Show My Scars So Others Know They Can Heal Too

Good morning from snowy Iowa! And yes, despite missing the last few snowstorms predicted and barely getting an inch, we got hammered this time, and our sleepy little town is still cleaning up while I sit inside and write to you. For that, I'm extremely thankful.


I really do not like winter at all - at least not when I have to go outside, like, for any reason at all, lol! Days like this, when I am stuck inside, are my favorite days to be creative and kick some butt on life planning my future!


Since many of you are new to the podcast and my blog and have asked more about what my business, In Pursuit of Purpose, is all about, I thought I'd dedicate this podcast to opening up myself and sharing what my purpose and this business are all about.


So first of all, let me introduce myself - the woman behind the lens and the voice of In Pursuit of Purpose.


My name is Sadie K. Frazier, and I am In Pursuit of Purpose. Many of you know that I am also an author and that Sadie is not my real name. My real name is actually Kris, and for all legal purposes, I obviously have to use that, which is great - that's who I am! LOL


But when I became an author, I thought it would be cool to come up with a pen name to use as many authors do. So my grandma Neva was one of my favorite people in the world, and growing up was my whole life. Her mom's name was Sarah Elizabeth, and they always called her Sadie. My grandma lost her mom at a very young age, I think before she was even a teenager. Now, my grandma was one of THE smartest women I have ever known. I did not know until she told me when she was 90+ years old that she dropped out of school after her mom died to stay home and take care of her dad and her brothers.


She became the woman of the home, which I'm only assuming in that era meant doing all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, and basically keeping a house full of men running efficiently. Anyway, I've always felt connected to that piece of her story and to the mom that she never truly got to know and share her whole life with.


So as I said, when I became an author, I chose Sadie as my pen name, and after a little bit, it just sort of became me and the woman I kind of keep hidden and would like to be one day. Sadie is the best version of myself, I think, that maybe I've never truly realized before now should be seen and heard a little more in this life I get to live!


Now that you know my name, who am I, REALLY?!


Well, as I mentioned before, from an entrepreneurial perspective, I am an author. I am a foodie. A content creator. An influencer.


I am the host of The Daily Escape Podcast. I am the author of my blog - The Nomadic Gemini. I am a vlogger with my hubby (also an author!), and we have a YouTube channel to capture all our adventures of vlogging on - Have Fate Will Travel!


I am also a musician, which I will discuss later, as this phase of my life needs a few minutes to shine on its own.


I am also the founder of In Pursuit of Purpose. But to many others, I am much, much more.


I am a Change Maker. A Game Changer. A Story Teller. A Hope Inspirer. A Menopause Survivor. A Peace Lover. A Heart Healer and a Spirit Seeker, too.

And last but not least, I am a Mindset Motivator and a life transformation coach - but I'll share a little more about that in a few minutes. One thing at a time, lol.


In all that I am and all that I seek to become, I know without a doubt that I have a message to share and an audience to serve. The bottom line is that my passion lies in inspiring others to find their voice and rewrite their story too.


Now, let me tell you a little more about In Pursuit of Purpose.



At the age of 45, I went back to school and earned my Master's Degree in Psychology and graduated with honors.

I went on to earn my Master Life Coach Degree in 2022 and opened my business, In Pursuit of Purpose, to help others find their voice and heal from trauma by rewriting their story.


I founded this business in August of 2021 amid a global pandemic that shook this nation to its core.


With a global shutdown looming and my full-time job on a forced, temporary hiatus, I quickly realized that not only did my own life need to change, but so did many of our mindsets and misconceptions of the persons we thought we once were becoming.


At the same time, the last of my kids were growing up and moving out right before my very eyes. I questioned where the years had gone and how had time escaped me.


I felt a sense of loss in losing my babies and in the simultaneous realization that I honestly had zero idea who I was without them now.


So I took a breath, a step back to evaluate a few things in my life that I'd been missing.


I learned to be still and listen as thoughts, inspiration, and dreams began to emerge as first - possibilities and, eventually - full-blown plans and goals bigger than I could have imagined.


In short, In Pursuit of Purpose is a business I conceived from those very big dreams and the never-ending hope that I may one day change the world.


It's no surprise, really, that my purpose is and has always been understanding with compassion and helping others discover the best version of themselves.


Within the past few weeks, a shift happened, and I'm blown away by the realization of how close I'd been all along to achieving those dreams. I just never saw it before because I was too blinded by my own fears and doubt to see it until now.


See, I've been waiting to become this person I always imagined I could be. But I realize that I need to meet you where you are in order to be my true, authentic self - faults, traumas, scars, and all. It became clear that I am right where I was meant to be - I am the person that is best equipped to help the person I used to be - and the person you are today.


Every single path along my journey to healing from my own trauma has led me to where I am meant to be.


I'm learning to trust the knowing - even when it doesn't make sense.


And if there is nothing else this world has taught us lately, it's that life is too damn short to waste another minute living in the shadows of someone else's dream.


Be still. Pray. Listen to your gut. You only get one shot in this life, and it's time to take that chance on yourself right now! Don't wait until it's too late...


If you want to follow my blog - Nomadic Gemini - for words crafted to inspire the voice in others to rewrite their story and manifest their best life, I've shared the link below.



On my blog, I share it all - the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of my life that I find it sometimes hard to expose my vulnerability - but my hope is that in sharing it all, you, too, might feel a little less alone on your journey to healing too.


See, it's not because I have all the answers or have it all figured out because I can assure you - that is far from the truth.

I struggle with the same things you do, and I'm not always good about keeping my head (or my heart) from reverting back to negative self-talk or believing lies from a past that no longer serves me.

But I, like you, am a survivor.


I am a hopeless romantic who will never stop believing that I, too, can be the catalyst whose words have the ability, in some small way, to change the world.

I'm here to inspire others, to offer them hope and healing to manifest their best life, and to uplift and encourage those who need it the most.

So, in essence, this blog is written with a passion for crafting words that inspire the voice of others who want to write their stories and manifest their best lives.


And I'm here to help in any way that I can!


I'm here to be your light!⁠


Okay, now let's move on to this podcast - The Daily Escape Podcast - I am the host of the said podcast, and it's honestly become one of my favorite creative ventures yet.


It is a motivational podcast offering hope and healing to create your best life while inspiring you to find your voice and live your dreams out loud.


Here is the link to the episodes listed on my website, but you can listen on any platform you love to listen your other favorite podcasts on!



I talk about a lot of things, like decluttering your mind, body, home, and soul to set your spirit free.


And how to Spark Change when you're running on empty!


And focusing on self-care and taking care of yourself.


And how to create happiness and discover the things that bring you joy.


But then are the more serious topics, and ones I plan to focus on even more now that my eyes are open and my heart has been changed.


Remember I said that within the past few weeks, a shift happened, and I'm blown away by the realization of how close I'd been all along to achieving those dreams? How I just never saw it before because I was too blinded by my own fears and doubt to see it until now?


It's because I've been sitting with my past and all of its trauma for far too long, and I haven't allowed myself to unpack my bags and surrender to the change I knew in my heart HAD to happen before I could move forward. Before I could help YOU to move forward, too.


In one of my past episodes (I'll link it below), I mentioned that we each have a bag we carry with all of our memories, our hopes, our dreams, our pain, and our traumas.



It's up to us to choose how to deal with that baggage, like what to pack and what to unload, to allow our minds and hearts the space to move forward.


When we surrender ourselves and face our fears to move through the obstacles standing before us, we allow ourselves to see that we were being prepared by all of those experiences to do, to BE something greater than we had ever planned.


On the other side of that mountain of change, I stand in awe and watch as the universe is revealing the most beautiful tapestry that makes up who I am and who you are.


You see, it's formed from every single experience beginning at birth and leading us on this journey to this very pivotal moment in time. Not in spite of our trauma - but because of it.


Now I have some pretty incredible news to share with all of you - I am about two hours away from completing my internationally accredited Trauma and Recovery Practioner certification, and I could not be more excited!


I listen to podcast after podcast telling me that while it's great to call yourself a "life coach," I need to hone in on my niche and learn who my target audience is and should always be.

Well, that's great, but I want to help everyone! LOL


But, again, I took a moment to be still. To sit with the calling that resonates within my spirit. I could see clearly now that out of my own pain, my purpose was revealed.


I had been focusing on a general writing course and coaching others to write a book. I've also talked about writing their story, but I couldn't see before now that I am meant to help others through their trauma first.

Writing can be a powerful way to heal from traumatic experiences. We often have a visceral response to trauma in that we feel this instinctive, gut-deep bodily response to an experience from our past.


Our initial response is to allow it to overwhelm us, so we hide from those feelings and experiences and bury them so deep within that we will never have to face the reality of those truths and traumas that cause deeply rooted scars and shame us into thinking we are not enough.


But I am here to tell you from personal experience - you can only hide from those demons, those skeletons in your closet, for so long before they arise from those hidden burial grounds and are blatantly staring us in our faces and will not allow us to hide any longer from the truth.


This is where I come in.


I believe that every story deserves to be told.

The hard truths.

The weakest moment.

The brokenness manifested into healing.

Every. Single. Word. is worth speaking into existence.


Look, I know the fears that are holding you back, the demons you are too afraid to face because I am facing them, too, every single day of my life.


But you do now have to face those fears alone.


You don't have to live in fear any longer.


You can learn to have power over your past by following my roadmap. I will show you how to break free from the past by working through your own trauma story on a path to healing through rewriting your story.


Writing is a powerful tool for reconstructing your trauma story, establishing a safe platform in which to face unspeakable things of the past, and connecting trauma survivors to the present, allowing them the space to truly begin to heal through creative expression.


And that, my friend, is what you are, no matter what stage of this story you are living in - You ARE A SURVIVOR! And I am too!


Writing your story can be deeply healing and will empower you in ways you could never imagine.

Just know that you are on the path - you have found me today, right? So I know it was no accident our paths were meant to align. Right here. Right now.


Reach out today if you'd like me to help you get started on your own journey of reclaiming the power of your voice, facing the demons of your trauma, and eventually, becoming a voice of change to help others survive their own.


I know you can't see it now, but you'll get there. Just as I did. Someday.

By being silent and sitting with the grief of losing yourself to this trauma for far too long.


By accepting your faults, trauma, and scars for what they are - your guide to healing through the pain.


And I'll be beside you every single step of the way.


Because I believe that in showing you my scars, others might know that you can heal, too.


Until next time,


I am unconditionally yours,


All my love,


~ Sadie




Email me at: sadiekfrazier@inpursuitofpurpose.org




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